Honestly, I don’t care either way, as long as he stops lying and keeping secrets and is monogamous with me from here on out. With all of that, he still swears he’s not gay or bisexual. Handing it over to me and knowing what I was about to find, he admitted he’d been cheating on me since the beginning of our relationship using hookup apps, and he was mostly cheating with men. (I think that using porn is cheating, but he disagrees.) He also insists that he’s not gay or even bisexual, and that his same-sex porn use is related to childhood sexual abuse.Īfter that, I asked to see his phone. When I confronted my husband, he said he’s addicted to porn but he’s never cheated on me.
Surveying his computer, I found folders containing hundreds of videos of men having sex with other men. I found out when I borrowed his laptop to check my email, started to type in the address of my email service, and got a porn site instead. Recently, I discovered that my husband of six years has been viewing porn of other men. Consider this email I received from a betrayed wife (made anonymous and used here with permission):
